Are you being your authentic self?

We have a natural desire to fit in.

When we fit in, we belong.

When we belong, we have a community.

When we have a community, we can’t be isolated.

Yet, sometimes in our desire to belong in a community, we can compromise who we are.

Maybe we say things we don’t mean.

Perhaps we do things that don’t feel right.

Maybe we “do the right things” and “say the right things” that are supposed to work, but don’t.

That’s inauthenticity: uneasy, off-putting and restrictive.

My Experiences

Throughout my life, I’ve held onto my authenticity – even if at times people wish I didn’t.

Yet, I’ve had to face my own battles as I pursue my passion.

I stand on stage.

I know the things I want to say.

I know all the models I need to structure everything perfectly.

I speak.

It works.

…yet people tell me there’s something different and less genuine about me.

What did I do wrong?

I tried to be a parrot; I tried to copy the style of my mentor, Andy Harrington.

As a result, rather than being smooth, natural and authentic, I felt stunted.

It’s a lot like feeling wooden: you can still move, but it feels rigid and uncomfortable.

Something had to change.

Don’t copy others: learn from them.

What works for him won’t work for you; what she does shouldn’t be what you do; how they are isn’t who you are.

Learn from those who inspire you, try it on, and take in what strengthens you.

Don’t be them 100% – or there will be no room for you to be yourself.

If you’re like me, you’re starting university soon.

Make sure you walk in as a person and not a parrot.

You will make friends not by impressing, but by expressing.

How will you express yourself?